How to Choose a Promise Ring

How to choose a Promise Ring

Rings with love - promise rings - home page - teenage couple in blueIf you are in a long term relationship and want to prove your love and commitment to your girlfriend, giving her a Promise Ring is the perfect way of doing so. There is no better way of demonstrating your feelings than giving your girl a Promise Ring. 

If you are serious about your relationship – and believe that your girl (or guy) feels the same – then it’s OK and entirely appropriate for you to give your loved one a Promise Ring. You just need to make sure that she feels the same way about you.

Of course, both of you may feel the same way about each other and believe that your relationship has reached a stage where you both want to give each other a Promise Ring. Exchanging Promise Rings is OK too!

Giving a Promise Ring is a real sign of commitment to the relationship and is appropriate for any young couple who are too young to get married or feel that they want to take the first step towards marriage in the future. 

When you give your girl a Promise Ring – or exchange Promise Rings – you are promising that one day in the future, you will ask her to marry you. 

Choosing the right ring

Given the importance of this occasion, choosing the right promise ring is just as important as choosing an engagement ring. The ring you choose is a ring that she will wear on a regular basis. It is also a ring that she will show her parents and friends. So choose carefully.

But you don’t need to panic! 

Choosing a Promise Ring is straightforward as long as you follow a few simple guidelines.

1)  Choose a ring that you know/feel that she will like.

This is the most important consideration of all. By now you should have an idea of what her tastes are and the kind of jewelry she likes and wears. Take this as your guide …. within reason of course.

If you really have no idea of what she likes, then there is nothing for it but to talk to her about giving her a Promise Ring. You can then go looking at rings together and get some idea of the ones she likes. If she points out the ones she likes, you can then go back and choose one at a later date. Of course there is nothing to stop you buying the ring while you are out together … it’s just that some people like to buy such rings themselves and make a proper presentation of the Promise Ring at a time of their own choosing.

2)  Don’t buy a ring that is an engagement ring lookalike.

It is very easy for your girl to get confused and think that you are proposing. It can then become embarrassing when you then have to explain that it is (only) a Promise Ring. So choose a ring that clearly isn’t an engagement ring.

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3)  Choose a Gemstone Ring

One of the best ideas is to choose a Promise Ring with a gemstone at its heart. There is a host of precious and semi-precious gemstone rings available and a Gemstone Ring is not likely to be mistaken for an engagement ring. This means that you won’t get into the embarrassing situation described above.

Gemstone rings are also less expensive than other options; they are certainly much less expensive than the traditional solitaire diamond engagement ring. You will certainly be able to find a gemstone ring to fit your budget – whatever it is.

4) A Birthstone Ring

An even better idea is to choose a gemstone that is her Birthstone. Choosing a Promise Ring that features her birthstone demonstrates the fact that you have given some real thought to choosing the ring. This will be much appreciated.

You can find out which gemstone is her birthstone by checking out our pages on Birthstone Rings. In some cases you may have a choice of two gemstones. You can take your pick.

Rose gold ringYou can also choose a ring set in her favorite metal with her birthstone/gemstone as the featured stone. Nowadays, there are several options when it comes to choice of metal – sterling silver, rose gold and of course the traditional metals such as gold, platinum etc.

Rose gold is very much on trend at the moment, while sterling silver is always a readily acceptable choice – without breaking the bank.

A quality gemstone promise ring will cost you anywhere from $50 to $350, maybe more.

Choosing a Promise Ring together.

Although it is usually good advice to avoid choosing a Promise Ring that looks like an engagement ring, there are times when you can break this rule …. for example, when you are choosing a Promise Ring together. You can then choose your ring(s) knowing that you will be replacing these with a more formal engagement ring at a later date.

Of course, you can opt for a real diamond engagement ring if your budget allows and simply present it as a promise ring. But bear in mind that diamond rings tend to have a scary price tag and will cost way into the thousands. Promise Rings are usually much cheaper.

CZ Sterling Silver ringSo, if you want to buy a promise ring that looks like a diamond ring, opt for a promise ring with a CZ (Cubic Zirconia) setting.

CZ-Cubic Zirconia Promise Ring

Cubic zirconia (CZ) is man-made and is the cubic crystalline form of zirconium dioxide (ZrO2). This synthesized material is hard, optically flawless and usually colorless, but can be produced in a variety of different colors. It is sometimes erroneously called “cubic zirconium”.

Because of its low cost, durability and close visual likeness to diamond, synthetic cubic zirconia is used in settings as an alternative to a diamond. CZ sometimes is often criticized for being a cheap imitation of diamond. This is only because it is often used in very cheap settings and sold in low cost outlets.  

If you purchase a CZ promise ring that is set into an 18k gold band, the ring will look very high quality and expensive. Expect to pay in the range of $35-$80 for a quality CZ promise ring.


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